We all have that one friend who tells you about their hemorrhoid situation before you’ve even ordered coffee. Are you that friend? The best way to check is to ask a neutral party. "Be honest—do I share too much too fast?"
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I asked my neighbor this after I accidentally told her about my ex’s weird obsession with collecting antique spoons. She paused, then said, "You’re like a rainstorm. Intense, but it clears the air." Okay, not a direct answer, but the vibe was clear: maybe dial it back. Since then, I save the spoon story for second dates only.
The "Am I a Good Listener?" Trap
Most people think they’re amazing listeners. Most people are wrong. It’s like thinking you’re a good driver—everyone else is the problem. To actually find out, ask a colleague or partner: "When I’m listening, do you feel heard? Or do I look like I’m planning my grocery list?"
My sister once told me I listen like a Golden Retriever—lots of nodding, but I’m just waiting for a treat. Yikes. Now I practice active listening, which is just fancy talk for "shut up and nod slower."
